Your Win WILL make someone lose

I remember the triumph of wining a cricket match & I still remember the pain of losing finals.People often tell me these lame words

• I should focus on wining.
• I should never let anyone suffer because of my deeds
• Winning or losing is just part of the game

I was never & still is not in agreement with these lines. I was told these four lines by same person with different names in diffrent ways. Every time he was in different role,but I sense same words, same meaning & same cowardliness.

It's long & I don't exactly remember when I realised it.Probably my first cricket coach told me that.I lost a big match & was crying alone.He walked to me & sat beside me.Pat my back & said those golden words which still drives my life.

"If triumph of winning is not greater than fear of losing for you.You cannot play.If you want to play; just for the sake of playing a good game,you won't get it.Every game is played by one rule & that's called Wining.YOU MUST PLAY TO WIN."

I remember I challenged his theory. Much senior to me,he listened patiently & quenched all my queries.I asked him how can I beat someone by following killer instinct. I am here for playing the game, not for hurting people.He looked straight in my eye & I still remember the look.Those eye told me I am wrong & those words just carved the fact in my heart

"If You will win,someone will lose".

You can't fight against it.We all want to live for others & give happiness to them.But it always boils down to a choice for me. Either quite playing the game or bear the pain of making others lose.

I still face a lot people who remain in constant dilemma of what to do. I saw them choosing the middle way & uttering the words like 'I play to play'. Trust me; no one in this world play to play.Many time I feel like quitting the game but I cannot, I am born to play it & I will continue to do so.Every time I saw the look & pain of losing in some one's eyes I regret my wining but I can't stop doing that because that's the role I was assigned. That's why we all play.That's why we call it life. It gives you win & It pairs it with pain to someone.

As a player I will continue to play for win but my heart should & will feel the pain of those who will lose because of me.I am not saying I will always win.That's absurd.That's impossible.

But If I lose I will understand, I need to win.I will understand & should forgive the joy shown by my opponent.I know I am sounding emotional here But that's what make us human.We are animals with emotions.I have to play like an animal, I have to win like an animal but in the evening I have every right to feel the pain of those who lost because of me.

I am not just an animal, I am a human too.

Arpit

The Fallacy of Right & Wrong

What is right? What is wrong? I always doubted there is a very thin membrane, separating the two entities or more precisely the states of human mind. I always tried to darken the line with the pencils i had & I was always unsuccessful.
But don't we all face it. Whatever is right for us is wrong for someone else & when that someone is one who cannot be avoided, we have conflicts.We call it ego clashes,incompatibility & a lot of effort fully discovered terms but at the base, there is only one thing.
SELF. We all see what we want & then we weave, reasons to prove it right, though this process is so automated & we have surrendered & so hopelessly dependent on it that we cannot see it happening. Whatever self think is right, becomes right & everyone else becomes wrong.
"Winners are always right". Sounds true to me." There is no wrong way to do right thing" again true. Because the bottom line stays same.If you have won, you have proved in a way that no more matters.You have zeroed on wrongs & defined the right.
HITLER.First thing comes to mind is that he was a sinner. But had Hitler invaded England successfully, he would be a winner. German would be the international language & from the very first day of your lives you would be told what a great visionary he was & then I might be writing this line featuring Englishmen not Hitler .But because he has fallen, his rights had been wronged out & he became a villain
Hitler once said, there's little difference between a truth & a lie. A truth is a lie, spoken so any times, that you have forgotten it's a lie. Quite in accordance with this article i suppose.
To get the solution you need to understand the problem & for that you need to understand rights & wrongs of the people created it.You need to break your rights & wrong mould & try to get into others mould, only then you can help them. Unfortunately we don't do that & problems get mutated. Then they go to someone else who again rests in his cozy shell of right & wrong & mutates them again
So what I say is If you are doing something, which is wrong for others but will benefit them. It should be done. If Wrong can place you at the top & allow you to do things for others. You must do it.But If you are harming others by doing Right/Wrong thing Its beyond the right & wrong

Arpit